Is AIDS responsible for the lack of older gay men? Did it wipe out an entire generation of gays? Watched a video about HIV / AIDS and this occurred to me. Of course, social stigmas and old views about homosexuality have stopped many older men from coming out, but was an entire generation of gays killed by AIDS? Why do I see plenty of younger gays, but few over the age of 40? |
First of all, no, it did not wipe out an entire generation.
There are lots of gay men. You probably don't frequent the same venues as them, and if you did, I doubt you'd be able to tell which men are gay. They aren't exactly walking around in feathered boas with glittery hot pants at 70 years old, and strangely, many people seem to expect this.
Also, the elderly in general, often feel intimidated and fear for their safety in many public areas. Likewise, many Queer people act like friends in public, because they don't have the strength to take on people who might attack them or try to start a fight. So, if you were an arthritic 70yr old man with a partner, would you take a stroll down to the local coffee shop hand in hand, risking the abuse that could come your way and knowing that you wouldn't be able to defend yourself or your partner?
Probably not....unless you live in certain areas, and if you did go to these areas, you'd see lots of elderly Queer couples. It's really sweet seeing old couples together actually. |
What are the most common frustrations by older gay men in their search for relationships? I am putting together a seminar and would like to see if you can help me with this question. What are the most common frustrations/fears/disappointments from older gay men in connection to dating and relationships? |
Its all they young women, that hit on them
young girls love older gay men |
Do you think that older gay men are good role models? Do you feel that older gay men are adequate role models? have you as a younger generation gay ever had a good older gay role model? |
| It depends on each individual. For example, I think Ian McKellen is a great older gay man who is a fantastic role model. Michael Jackson on the other hand is a super-crappy role model. I don't think that sexual orientation should have any bearing on weather any particular person is a good role model. That should be decided by seeing what that person has done with his life. |
Why do so many older gay men over 30 pay for sex with young twinks and college students? I know twinks who will have sex with "older" men to help pay for their beer, rent, or related living expenses.
Two questions:
1. Why do older men pay for young twinks and not get someone there own age?
2. Does that make the twink a prostitute, even though the twink is "selective"... and uses discretion in who they chose to have sex with? |
1. The older guys are sometimes more attracted to younger males who they think would otherwise have little or no interest in them with out a little persuasion
2. The twink can very much be considered a prostitute/escort even though they're being selective b/c they are getting paid to have sex. |
Do older gay men use young men to feel young again? Do they see younger men as a way to feel young again? Do they steal the lifeforce energy from younger men through sexual magic harnessed to transcend one's normally perceived reality.
I'm in a gay relationship with a man 30 yrs older than me. |
I've noticed a lot of young/old relationships between all sexes. I don't think they're being used. I think sometimes the younger guys like older men for experience, or that older men know how to treat people better. The older guys like the younger guys because they feel "fatherly" or they want to take care of someone.
This is just my opinion of course, but I don't think it's to steal the life force. |
Why do most gay men dislike older men? You can't say it is because they get hit on by them. Most gay men like to get hit on by young guys, so why so much hatred towards older guys. |
| Being a little older myself now, I think everyone in general likes to get hit on by younger people, because really who doesn't like someone who is at their physical and sexual peak, it's fun and it make you feel good and young yourself. I have to add however, that I've always enjoyed older men...guys 10 or 15 years older. |
Why do I get along better with girls, and older gay men? Girls hit on me all the time, And often become my friends.
I have better communication with older gay men.
But gays my age and I don't usually get on.
Why is that? |
| That's just your personality. |
Why are young gay men attracted to older gay men? I get a lot of looks from younger men. I don't think I am very attractive. I was never attracted to older men when I was young.
I am 43 and they are all in their 20's and 30's. |
| I'm bisexual and attracted to older men...it's the maturity factor. You look intelligent, decent, and mature...that's HOT. xP ;P Enjoy it. ;) |
How can i be a trick for gay older men.? How can i be a trick for older gay man. How do i dress for them. |
| I don't know. I am a gay older man (58) but sorry..younger men just don't appeal to me sexually. I guess you could probably find lots that do...just dress however you want. |
Is there any truth in the statement that younger gays react negatively to older gay men? read details? Berger in his book, "Gay and Gray; The older homosexual male "stated that "Most older gays feel that young people sometimes take advantage of them, do not welcome their company in bars, clubs and bathhouses, do not care to associate or form friendships with them and think they are dull company"
Is his observation true or false? |
| I think the observation is true, but not just for gays, for everyone. Most people have a problem with getting old, and they shun those who remind them of what they'll eventually become. This could be extra true for the gay community, where it appears so much emphasis is placed on youth and looks. |